How To Truly Love Someone

Love, every relationship revolves around this fancy word. I don’t even believe that the meaning of this word, Love exists, because for me, Love could mean everything, and anything. Curiosity knocked me for some times, and foolishly I've responded by mistake with some deceiving characteristics it showed. At this moment, I know I’ve finally found the right woman to share with this mysterious feeling. Complicated and impossible this may seem, lot of things are going so wrong, and I honestly don’t know yet how I could work this out, but all know is that it feels so right. And everything’s going to be all right. Miracles happens everyday.

In the first place, how could you/we know that what we’re feeling is love? How exactly it is to love someone? How can we say we’re giving justice to the word love? Here are some characteristics I could give you to define “true love”; let’s specify it as true, because love can be faked too. If you want to show real love to someone, keep these words somewhere with you.

Firstly, love is sure kind, it seeks to encourage and build up others. It respects the feelings and emotions of one another... It finds its greatest satisfaction in making others happy. Kindness can be seen when you give one another things such as gifts and encouragement cards. Complement each other; magnify the other party’s strength, instead of trying hard to change him/her.
Sometimes, just listen. Listen to one another. Pay close attention to what each of you has to say and make each other feel that what each says is important. 

Obviously, true love is proud. So treat one another special in public. Compliment and encourage one another sincerely in the presence of others. Doing this passively provides assurance and comfort. Both of you is feeling so wonderful about yourselves.

Love is not jealous. Jealousy usually indicates an insecure and immature heart. Love wants the best for others, but jealousy is possessive. Jealous is reflected in the childish statement, “If he is going to talk to her, then he can just forget about me!” and often, one person wants to totally own the other and restrict his/her relationships with others…

Love is not about bragging. It’s not airy and is never to impress. Most of the times, one tends to always think how to please the other, trying to show nice impressions that’s really unnecessary – because a man who is true to himself, however, does not need to exalt himself, others will praise him.
Love is not arrogant; it’s not conceited, boastful, cocky, or stagnant, instead, is humble and has a servant attitude. Sometimes, your partner may come to threaten you with the “I can take you or leave you” attitude – that sarcastically implies, “You should be thankful that somebody as me is just so patient with you.” (Pasalamat ka nagtitiis pa ako sa tulad mo.) Of course, this is not love!
Love always covers - this word cover means to pass over in silence; to keep confidential, to have another’s trust and confidence, and sometimes indicates intimacy.

Love is patient with the mistakes of others. It doesn't criticize, interrogate and brag to the other or to the world the faults his/her partner committed, true love should stay, even when it knows the other is not perfect…

Love always perseveres. Love always stands its ground and hold on. It will endure anything. It will even love in the face of unrequited (one-sided) love; real love will last and grew though all sorts of trials, complications and stress.
Love is never provoked; this means that love has a long fuse. It does not become irritated and angry. It is not easily offended…

Love does not seek its own. This is the heart of love. Love is other-centered rather than self- centered. Love says, “I love you, I always want to love you.” Selfishness says, “I love you, I want you!”
Love does not act recklessly. This means that love does not behave clumsy, immoral or shameful. It does not embarrass others by its action. It is characterized by tact and sensitivity. This also means that love should have good manner. For the guys, let’s give justice to the word gentleman, and for the gals, always act conservatively.

Lastly, Love is forgiving; it keeps no record of wrongs. This is a MUST for a successful love story. If someone is not willing to forgive and forget with the most little mistakes, he/she is not exhibiting love. One must not hold grudges when it has been wronged. It doesn’t remain resentful.
Remember this: Love forgets past failures and sins.

I am grateful if you’d reach this part of this piece of crap, and I hope you’ve learned a little with all this drama. Or the least, I made you smile, laugh, doubt or think of someone – without you knowing it.